Lesson 3: If you're together for 8 years, getting married must only be the next step.
I've known a couple who have been friends for long years then fell in love and became bf-gf for 8 years and then finally they got married. That union lasted for only 2 years.
I thought being together for 8 years is the perfect ingredient for a marriage that truly lasts, it was not. She learned that being together that long should NOT be the ONLY reason to get married.
We all believe that couples like them should end nowhere but head to the altar. That even when things start to fall apart, sayang naman kasi matagal na rin naman ang pinagsamahan. True, sayang. But should that be the reason to say I Do? If you're in a long term relationship and you want to end it because there's no love anymore, that better be the right reason to get out of the relationship than decide to still go on with the marriage plans and then chicken out on The Day itself (the runaway bride.) No man or woman deserves that shame. If you're on the other end who still wants to hold on tight, do everything in your power to make it work. But if you're the only one who does all the work, it's not worth it any longer. ACCEPT IT. My cousin told me once, NASA PAGTANGGAP LANG YAN. It resonated on me loud when the situation I was in was so hard I couldn't accept any reason. Those words, they hurt but true. I think we would all rather be hurt and torn than be in a marriage that's unhappy.
I've known a couple who have been friends for long years then fell in love and became bf-gf for 8 years and then finally they got married. That union lasted for only 2 years.
I thought being together for 8 years is the perfect ingredient for a marriage that truly lasts, it was not. She learned that being together that long should NOT be the ONLY reason to get married.
We all believe that couples like them should end nowhere but head to the altar. That even when things start to fall apart, sayang naman kasi matagal na rin naman ang pinagsamahan. True, sayang. But should that be the reason to say I Do? If you're in a long term relationship and you want to end it because there's no love anymore, that better be the right reason to get out of the relationship than decide to still go on with the marriage plans and then chicken out on The Day itself (the runaway bride.) No man or woman deserves that shame. If you're on the other end who still wants to hold on tight, do everything in your power to make it work. But if you're the only one who does all the work, it's not worth it any longer. ACCEPT IT. My cousin told me once, NASA PAGTANGGAP LANG YAN. It resonated on me loud when the situation I was in was so hard I couldn't accept any reason. Those words, they hurt but true. I think we would all rather be hurt and torn than be in a marriage that's unhappy.
No comments:
Post a Comment
thanks for reading this post!
Email thethoughtbubbleblog@gmail.com for queries, request or suggestions, thanks!