how to Marry the Wrong Person

I've read an article written by Rabbi Dov Heller, M.A. about not making a serious mistake in deciding who to spend the rest of your life with. Thought I'd share...

Ways to Marry the Wrong Person

You pick the wrong person because you expect him/her to change after you're married.
(this I think is the most common mistake women make. Even if you're just bf-gf you should never believe he will change because you said so, just inspire him to better himself, it will surely be lasting if he changes because he genuinely wants to)


You pick the wrong person because you focus more on chemistry than on character.
(in the end, character is what's more important than just both of you having that amazing chemistry)


You pick the wrong person because the man doesn't understand what a woman needs most
(for me, the time when a man understands what her woman needs most is when he's got maturity, so marry a man not a boy)


You pick the wrong person because you do not share a common life goals and priorities.
(in marriage, your goals in life and priorities should be heading towards the same direction because you're now a team)


You pick the wrong person because you get involved sexually too quickly.
(True. 'Nuff said)


You pick the wrong person because you do not have a deeper emotional connection with this person.
(that connection happens when you've known him quite enough, you should both make it a mission to know each other full well)


You pick the wrong person because you choose someone with whom you don't feel emotionally safe.
(if you feel unsafe with him, don't choose him)


You pick the wrong person because you don't put everything on the table.
(lay all your cards before you marry each other,it's hurtful and deceitful if you've learned things from other sources rather than from him)


You pick the wrong person because you use the relationship to escape from personal problems and unhappiness.
(that escape will never lead to that elusive happiness)


You pick the wrong person because he/she is involved in a triangle.
(if he cheats with another girl, who's to say he won't cheat on you too)

P.S. what are your other marriage tips?