Marriage Tips

 

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I've been married for 4 blissful years. I know I'm no expert when it comes to the marriage front as of yet but I'd like to share the things I've already learned along the way. Some may probably agree with my tips, some will have to disagree. Different strokes for different folks I guess but at least the idea more or less of the dynamics involved in a marriage will make you assess on how to achieve the kind of married life you wish to have or the kind to where you're adjusting now. A work in progress...

Marriage Tip #1: Never ever live with your in-laws.

Someone once told me that the only way to be closer to your in-laws, particularly your mom-in-law, is to not live with her. (Note: I say mom-in-law particularly because I'm a woman and normally a woman's relationship with her dad-in-law is as cool as your relationship with your own dad. The hope is that it's the case for every woman.) She said that in every household, there should only be one "ilaw ng tahanan". Otherwise it's just easy to clash. Which I took to heart and later on realized that she's made a fair point. For one, you're two different people with different opinions, values, minds, take, dreams, outlook in life that when one misunderstood the other, one easily gets hurt especially if it's something one strongly believes in. When that happens, it's just easy to take it personally. Yes even no matter how you rationalize it as she's meaning it good or she doesn't mean to offend.

I'm just a lucky wife that I have a very open relationship with my husband that we can actually sit down and talk about everything. Even if my concern is about his own mother. Don't get me wrong, I'm actually okay with mom-in-law and I can say the same to her with me but you know there are still times when I'm thankful we don't live with her because when she speaks her mind (about me or just about any mundane things) she forgets I'm capable of hurting. I'm not one to talk back so my story will have to end there, like she offends me, me gets hurt, me doesn't talk or answer back, period. Anyways, we're still getting to know each other and like I said I'm still a novice and still inching my way to everything and anything about marriage. But no matter what, I'd still recommend this to most of my friends, if they haven't learned from it yet :) Because you know, life and love is a whole lot different, if in your house you're the only "ilaw ng tahanan". Take it from that acquaintance I have probably met for that reason and wisdom. :)

what are your other marriage tips?

(see Marriage Tip #2)