When we were still planning to get married and I had no inch a doubt our relationship was that serious to head to the altar, I thought of sharing this marriage checklist I found in the net with him and see what we might have gotten into. I thought I'd make excuses pa or it would be hard for me to engage him in topics such as this but I was proven wrong, happily. And all his answers have made me realize I would soon tie the knot with THE right guy. I suggest you discuss these same concerns with your hubby-to-be. Hear and understand what he has to say. They are very serious topics that warrant serious thoughts especially when deciding on matters that from then on will all be about you and him.
Be very truthful with your answers as much as possible, remember you will be sharing real life together, one that's lifetime and committed. To this day, I still remember how he all answered them. I was just glad we talked about them so I truly hope the checklist would have been helpful to both of you too.
Marriage Reality Check(list)
So you’ve chosen the person to live with for the rest of your life. But do you know his or her take on certain issues concerning your marriage and future family? Below is a checklist of things you ought to discuss and disclose before proceeding with your wedding plans.
PERSONAL
Do I do anything that bugs you? If I can’t change, could you live with that for the rest of our lives?
CHILDREN
How many children do you want? Who’s going to be the primary caregiver? How would you feel if we won’t be blessed with any?
FINANCES
Who will handle the household budget? Will we be allowed to have personal savings and spending from each others salary? Or do we remit our full salary in the same pool? Do you have any financial obligations to your family? Do you have debts?
DWELLING
Where will we live when we get married? Is living with our families an option? If so, when do we expect to move out?
HEALTH
Do we have any health issues each should know of? Are there any health concerns that we could potentially pass to our children or we should prepare for financially?
FAITH (different religions/beliefs)
Do you expect me to convert to your religion? Or would you respect it if I choose to still practice what I believe in? Which religion should our children be brought up to?
PRIVACY
Are we allowed to answer calls in each other’s cellphones? Are we free to read each other’s text messages, emails, & mails?
SEX
Can we comfortably and openly discuss our sexual needs, preferences and problems?
FUTURE IN-LAWS
Does my family do anything that annoys you? Do you feel they will interfere with our marriage? Will it be alright with you if I keep supporting my family (physically/financially) even if already we’re married?
CAREER
Do you expect me to be a full-time housewife? Would you be bothered if my job pays better than yours?
CHORES
What household chores do you expect me to do?
LIFESTYLE
What do you wish/expect me to changes in my present lifestyle?
FRIENDS
Who among my friends do you feel is a bad influence? Are we still allowed to go out with them for late night gimmicks when we’re married?
MIGRATION
Do you see raising our family here in the Philippines or is migrating to a foreign land in the plans? Would you consider a job abroad and leave your family behind for a better life?
(Source: http://www.weddingsatwork.com/index.php/marriage-reality-checklist/ )
Be very truthful with your answers as much as possible, remember you will be sharing real life together, one that's lifetime and committed. To this day, I still remember how he all answered them. I was just glad we talked about them so I truly hope the checklist would have been helpful to both of you too.
Marriage Reality Check(list)
So you’ve chosen the person to live with for the rest of your life. But do you know his or her take on certain issues concerning your marriage and future family? Below is a checklist of things you ought to discuss and disclose before proceeding with your wedding plans.
PERSONAL
Do I do anything that bugs you? If I can’t change, could you live with that for the rest of our lives?
CHILDREN
How many children do you want? Who’s going to be the primary caregiver? How would you feel if we won’t be blessed with any?
FINANCES
Who will handle the household budget? Will we be allowed to have personal savings and spending from each others salary? Or do we remit our full salary in the same pool? Do you have any financial obligations to your family? Do you have debts?
DWELLING
Where will we live when we get married? Is living with our families an option? If so, when do we expect to move out?
HEALTH
Do we have any health issues each should know of? Are there any health concerns that we could potentially pass to our children or we should prepare for financially?
FAITH (different religions/beliefs)
Do you expect me to convert to your religion? Or would you respect it if I choose to still practice what I believe in? Which religion should our children be brought up to?
PRIVACY
Are we allowed to answer calls in each other’s cellphones? Are we free to read each other’s text messages, emails, & mails?
SEX
Can we comfortably and openly discuss our sexual needs, preferences and problems?
FUTURE IN-LAWS
Does my family do anything that annoys you? Do you feel they will interfere with our marriage? Will it be alright with you if I keep supporting my family (physically/financially) even if already we’re married?
CAREER
Do you expect me to be a full-time housewife? Would you be bothered if my job pays better than yours?
CHORES
What household chores do you expect me to do?
LIFESTYLE
What do you wish/expect me to changes in my present lifestyle?
FRIENDS
Who among my friends do you feel is a bad influence? Are we still allowed to go out with them for late night gimmicks when we’re married?
MIGRATION
Do you see raising our family here in the Philippines or is migrating to a foreign land in the plans? Would you consider a job abroad and leave your family behind for a better life?
(Source: http://www.weddingsatwork.com/index.php/marriage-reality-checklist/ )
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